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How to survive the holidays after divorce

The holidays are particularly difficult for divorced families and parents that share custody. For some families the period stretching over Christmas through New Year's and during their child's entire Christmas break is usually filled with friends, family and fun. However, for mixed families this time may need to be split up between parents making the time without children difficult for some. A recent article published suggests some simple but effective methods to making it through the holidays for parents that must share custody of their children.

The articles first suggestion sounds much easier than it may be for many parents. It is to simply back off and give your ex quality time with your children. While it may be hard not being with your child on Christmas morning, New Year's Day or during the first snowfall, giving them the space they need to build quality memories with their other parent only helps them in the long run.

Another suggestion is to avoid displaying or placing guilt, anger or sadness in front of your children or on them. The holidays are meant to build memories and feel grateful for what we've been given. A child whose parent is angry or sad, or makes them feel guilty for wanting to see their other parent is less likely to be grateful for what they have.

The article also tells parents to keep in mind what this time of year means to a child. If that means cramming all of your holiday shopping, visiting and excitement in three days of your child's winter break, that is exactly what you should do.

The holidays are difficult for divorced families but there are ways to make them work. If you are going through the divorce process and considering your custody arrangement, speaking to a family law attorney can help you make a custody arrangement that works for you and your children.

Source: The Huffington Post, "8 Commandments for Surviving Christmas Custody," Tiffany Benyacko, Dec. 21, 2015

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